The age we live in now is incredibly different from that of times gone by, and this is especially true when it comes to the world of dating. People have become more fluid in their expectations, emotions are not always a priority, and technology has given free rein to the hook-up culture. So it’s safe to say that dating simply isn’t what it used to be. However, this doesn’t mean that you need to shy away from it. Everyone should give love a shot, even if it doesn’t work out every time- you won’t find the love of your life hiding under the covers and binging on TV shows, that’s for sure!
The first date is always nerve-wracking, and to make sure that you go into every first date oozing confidence, we’ve made a list of tips to help you ace it every time.
Where and When Matters
The location and timing matter when it comes to the first date. This does a great deal when it comes to dealing with any nerves or anxiety you may be experiencing. A casual location like a cafe for either breakfast, coffee or lunch is a lot less stressful than having a formal dinner. Ideally, for the first date, you should initially just meet for coffee. You can both guarantee you’re sober, it’s short and sweet, and you don’t have to deal with getting too dressed up or too made up for the occasion. Plus, if things don’t go well then it doesn’t have to be awkward to sit through a whole meal- it’s just coffee so it’s easier to get through whenever you like.
Dress to Impress Yourself
There’s no question about the fact that you want to go out of your way to look good on your first date. The important thing is that you understand that it’s important that you look good to please yourself, and the best way to do that is to go for comfort. There are plenty of options that look great which don’t have to compromise your comfort. If you’re a woman, then make sure that you’re not wearing painful heels or clothes that make it hard to breathe or move. This goes all the way down to the underwear as well. In fact, there are underwear options that are sexy as well as comfortable and convenient. There is underwear now that looks great while giving extra protection in case you just started your period. You won’t have to worry about any embarrassing leaks and you can wear whatever you want! For men, you don’t have to wear uncomfortable suits, wear something that’s smart casual. And in both cases, make sure that you wear something that shows off your personality and style.
Conversation is Key
The best way to ace a date is to keep the conversation flowing. Of course you need to be yourself, but it’s always a good idea to somewhat prep yourself as well. This doesn’t mean that you need a script! You just need to think about what kind of questions you’d like to ask to get to know this person better and to understand their qualities. You also need to ensure that you listen- being a good listener is just as crucial as being a good conversationalist.
Keep it Light
It’s so important that you don’t go into your first date with a heavy outlook. It’s just the first date! We know that you want to know enough to be able to decide whether you want to have another date with this person or not, but try not to get too personal. Keep religion, politics and future prospects about a family out of it for now. Try to make each other laugh and see what you might have in common, and remember that it’s really about chemistry.
To really ace that first date, especially if you enjoyed yourself and felt that you got along with this person, then don’t make the mistake of keeping your distance for too long. If you like them, give it a day or two and then call them up and prepare for the next date. You should be observant enough on the first date to realize whether they are interested in you or not. And if not, then just give it a shot.
The world of dating can be a scary place initially, and especially first dates are nerve-wracking because you don’t know what to expect and of course, you’re afraid of rejection. But the important thing is to follow the advice provided here and remember that you’re putting yourself out there for the experience and ultimately, to meet someone that is compatible with you- so you may not get it right every time, but you will someday!